It’s easy to be positive and resourceful when everything is going great….but what happens when things go wrong?
There’s a popular saying: anything that doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. When I think back to the hardest and most challenging experiences of my life – dealing with relationship breakdown, the near failure of my business and the prolonged illness of a close family member – I know that to be true…
No matter how unpleasant or difficult those times might have been, they forced me to grow as a person and gave me a different perspective on life.
I’m sure it’s been the same for you. The good times are great and should be enjoyed, but it’s the challenges of life that really test you and allow you to discover what you’re made of.
It’s only when you get right out of your comfort zone – so far out on the edge of that branch that it’s bending under your weight and swaying wildly in the winds of your uncertainty – that you learn what’s possible for you and who you really are.
It’s easy to be positive and resourceful when everything is going great. It’s a different equation when you’re up against it and life is throwing you curve balls. And while you can’t always choose what happens to you or the problems that occur, you can choose how you respond to them.
The more time you spend outside your comfort zone – that space in which you operate every day, where you know and possibly even control the rules and where the outcomes are predictable and certain – the more you grow and expand.
International success coach, Tony Robbins, says that the quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty with which you can comfortably live.
Over the past few years, the world has become a much more uncertain space. Some people have responded to that by growing and adapting; others have given up.
The more you challenge and stretch yourself, the better equipped you’ll be to handle the unpredictabilities of life and to achieve your goals in any environment.
Companies sometimes seek to stretch their people through outdoor challenges like orienteering, rock-climbing and abseiling. Success coaches like Robbins use fire walks, pole climbs and board breaks to help people break through their fears.
If there’s something you’re afraid of or are avoiding, challenge yourself to tackle it head on. As long as you’re avoiding it, you’re allowing it to suck energy out of you and control you.
Life sends us challenges, not so that we can beat them, but so that we can more fully embody the person we truly are AS we beat them.
It’s not about what we get, but who we become.
So get out on that branch, and discover your best you!